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in search of romance

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Hi everyone,

It’s been a while that I’m out of any relationship and I’m starting to feel lonely even though I have amazing friends and never lack socialisation. But when it comes to romance, I have trust issues and I’m generally not very eager to open up to people. Can you please take a look at my chart and say where and when I might meet someone?

Victory, born 23 mai 1994, Moscow, Russia at 1.25 pm

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Hi vikky37,

With Saturn in Pisces conjunct your 7th House/Relationships, I certainly can see why you "have trust issues".  Perhaps you find or have found that eventually a 'partner' becomes too demanding, or expects too much from you ?   This could be because you unconsciously attract those who you sense or see 'need help' in some way.   Or, alternatively, perhaps you even see a partner as a kind of 'father figure' or mentor who will 'save' you ?   "Hero Worship" is a possibility here too, or feeling that the partner is 'above' or better than you ?

Whether or not any of this is or feels true, currently this strong line-up of powerful planets in your 5th House (romantic liaisons) is and has been for some time, making it difficult for you to find romance.   Transiting Pluto has been going back and forth over your (Uranus)/Neptune conjunction in the area of romance since about May 2019, joined  by Saturn (important because it rules your 5th House which as mentioned is conjunct your relationship house cusp, (which is ruled by Neptune).  A "doubly-whammy", so to speak. 

Transiting Pluto conjunct Neptune is one of the strongest and most powerful combinations as it works towards a total transformation on many levels.  It's hard to see how this is working while it's happening as it's very subtle, but after it's over, we look back on who we were before it and rarely recognise 'that person'.   It's incredibly enlightening, but yes, whilst it's going on it's very difficult to see or understand as it's so subtle.

And so, when will it 'end' or change ? (I hear you asking).   Well, it will be going on in varying ways for a couple of years.  HOWEVER, this doesn't mean you won't meet someone or have a meaningful relationship in the meantime.   It just means that you are and will be seeking a different kind of relationship...a different type of person and/or relationship than you previously sought; or at least you'll be doing so with more awareness of your deeper and truer needs in a partner.    

The planet Jupiter (expansion and growth), has also been going through this area since Feb. this year increasing your hopes for a love-relationship.  Then it turned retrograde and moved back across your Neptune in that area during June/July...perhaps emphasising even more, your hopes and dreams of such a romantic liaison.   And so, Jupiter turns direct in that same area in just 11 days, and it's possible that after this date, and especially during Nov./Dec. when it conjoins your Neptune again (and your Uranus there), that you will meet or find someone (perhaps through a friend, or a group...or even an 'old flame') who "lights your fire".   Just be careful that you don't fall into a "Hero Worship" trap along the way.  

In the meantime, don't worry about this lack of love or of a relationship, it is happening for a purpose, even if you can't see what that purpose is right now.

Hope this helps, and if you have any further questions or comments about this, please do ask and I'll try to assist.

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Dear Admin,

Thank you immensely for such a detailed answer!

You are absolutely right, I tend to be attracted by people that I could look up to and who are more mature than me (not necessarily age-wise). I also need to feel to be loved and taken care of, which is probably because I’m an only child in the family and seek for the same model in a romantic relationship. At the same time, whenever I see that someone is being generous and kind, I always do the same, I just can’t bring myself to make the first move. Also, all the meeting apps are not really my cup of tea, as I’m looking mostly for a friend and then for a partner and I don’t want to speed the things up (since I need more time to trust a person).

In March 2019, I had a breakup that was hard to get over but, in hindsight, I am glad it happened. Then in September 2019 I moved to France and had to build a new life from scratch, which might be a part of the transition that you are talking about. As for Jupiter expansion and growth, I could also feel that over the summer I feel a growing need for a partner and even a soul-mate. I guess the COVID-19 vibes with closed borders and lack of socialisation strengthen this desire.

Thank you for the hints about November / December, it sounds very interesting! Are there any indicators in the chart where it might happen? Or is it better not to know?

By the way, I find Puma’s quote that you have below tremendously accurate! Thanks again.

Best,
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Hi Victory,

Thanks very much for the feedback !

Re your question about "where" this might happen, I'm not quite sure what you mean.  Are you planning to move again ? (which may be a possibility... ?).
If not, then if you let me know your current location (town/city) in France, I'll set up a Relocation Chart and see if that offers any clues.
(You can pm me with that data if you wish it to remain private).

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vikky37 wrote: Tue Sep 01, 2020 6:40 pm It’s been a while that I’m out of any relationship and I’m starting to feel lonely even though I have amazing friends and never lack socialisation. But when it comes to romance, I have trust issues and I’m generally not very eager to open up to people.
Hello vikky,

yes - I can imagine how you feel right now - as your mercury, your neptune and your scorpio moonnode - all on same degree are still transit-activated by transiting pluto for a considerable change in and new beginning in your life- lasting until Nov 26th, 2020 - to support you to find a new partner matching your own chart energies. But obviously from your transits you have to find out something about yourself before as well. With your transit activated natal pluto and your natal saturn as ruler of 5th, a.o. love and romance.

In fact, love and romance (5th house) and relationship (7th house) -for a certain reason is not an easy looking theme in your chart. Your 7th house- relationship in your chart is ruled by neptune in capricorn in 5th house. Saturn rules your 5th house and is in pisces in 7th house - both connected in a special way- each in sign of the other one - kinda working "hand in hand" - supporting each other in their house subjects and purposes.

5th house -for me- is also father, father as first male model role - a woman looks for as an inner picture in a partner, father experience in childhood. Saturn as ruler of 5th- father- semisquares zero degree exact your uranus in 5th house at point of your birth.

To me it looks like that you felt yourself not welcomed at point of your birth and felt rejected from your father. You afterwards in later life - probably subconsciously crave to get it healed from a partner - but same time fearing to experience a rejection to happen again - what makes relationships with men some difficult- looking at them with your "father glasses" on.

Neptune and uranus in 5th house often show a father not being really available as father in childhood. And you probably had to learn early to not show your father much about yourself - with uranus ruling 6th - semisquaring saturn.

Moreover, it is kinda odd for me to read that you are the only child in your family with your well placed 3rd house - also house of siblings- and a fated scorpio moonnode conjuncting pluto in sibling house.

Your mercury as your rising and midheaven ruler and your moonnode in intercepted scorpio in 3rd house and your neptune as your dc ruler and second part of your birth axis- rules also your 8th house. 8th house -to me- is a.o. also house of death and near to death experience and genetic inheritance. And all three are on same degree of 23° (b.t.w. - day of your own birthday 8)) and zero degree exact connected together.

Could it be that your mother had a miscarriage before your own birth? She would have liked to see and to get healed from with your birth ? A lost soul in your family not born to earth- neptune as ruler of 8th in 5th ?. Neptune can show a waiver or an unknown secret on which was kept silence on.

Jupiter rules your 4th house- for me also mother and mother experience in childhood. Jupiter in intercepted secretive scorpio is tight conjuncted by your moon - natally sesquiquadrating your mercury as your rising. Moon/jupiter both opposing your taurus Black Moon Lilith in 9th house and both sextiling your leo chiron in 12th house- the left wound during pregnancy before birth. Showing that your mother had a difficult time at point of your birth and already before. Uranus as health house ruler in 5th house sextiles degree exact your pluto in 3rd as co-ruler of 3rd and neptune/uranus conj. sesquiquadrates your asc.

Sun rules your 12th house, also prenatal experience during pregnancy of your mother with you - and sun is sitting short after your midheaven and lifepath cusp -squaring your leo chiron in 12th - the left wound already experienced in prental period and before your birth.

3rd house is besides house of siblings, your personal manner to communicate with people - but also your physical outsending radiance - people can notice from you. And takes influence on your love and romance experience as well- with pluto sextile nep/ur in 5th.

With jupiter as ruler of 4th in scorpio in 3rd- your mother experience and what you probably took over from her as thoughts during pregnancy - took subconsciously considerable influence on you - people/men may instinctively notice from you under your surface as kinda irritating - with pluto sextile uranus and neptune.

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Hello never_give_up,

Thank you for analysing my chart!

I wouldn’t say that my father was absent in my childhood, he is just not a very emotional person and might seem a bit indifferent on the surface (but very vulnerable deep down). He is very bad at expressing his love, scarce with praise, but I had never doubts about his enormous love to me. But you are right, maybe subconsciously it affected me somehow. That is why I’m looking for someone explicitly affectionate and who openly demonstrates his feelings.

My mother, on the contrary, is a complete opposite. She is very expressive, dominant and hyper-worried (kind of a helicopter mom). She loves me a lot, sees me as a center of the universe, and while I think that it is an enormous blessing, at times it might also be very hard. It might be one of the reasons why I moved out to another country. But without her constant support and presence, I wouldn't have made it.
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Dear all,

It's been more than three years since I posted my first message on this forum. It's really cool to read this feed all over again! I guess back then I was going through very unstable times but now things seem to work out. I never moved from the place where I was living three years ago (even though I can't sit still and always traveling from one place to another), got some really cool work related projects and there's been some progress in my love life as well. Therefore, I was wondering if anyone could take a look at the synastry with my current partner? I might add the chart if needed but the partner's birth date is February 6th 1986.

I feel like I'm really attracted to kinda Saturn-driven authoritative and pro-active men but I'm just worried that they may end up being too controlling and over-jealous without a reason.

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Hi vikky37,

Sounds like you've made some really good progress all round ! Congratulations.

Re your partner, it's best for you to make another post about this in the "Synastry/Relationship" area of the forum as this is where such queries are answered. (Please give a different subject heading too).

Also, please give his full birth details: Date, Place and Time of Birth.

Thank you.

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